How to Deal with Conservative Parents

Written on January 14, 2010 by soo1029310

Who knows? Maybe you have a great loving relationship with your parents. Maybe you’re comfortable enough to talk to them about anything and you have the ideal family you see on TV that gets together and does everything together. But for everyone else (not to point any fingers, but this is a trait of many Asian families, one of which may be mine), our parents are either too strict or too overprotective. But for those of you that go crazy every night wondering how you’ll survive, don’t fear! You are not alone! I have gone through all of this and I have some tips on how you can maintain your sanity!

First tip: find an outlet. No, I don’t mean an electrical one. If you aren’t seeing a counselor, chances are you keep a lot of emotions bottled up inside. Find something to do that you can use to release your emotions. I personally like playing the piano, and I have heard of people drawing or even joining dojos to release their pent up energy into physical sports.

Second tip: Find the reason. Try to understand from your parents’ view on why they do the things they do. Because if they are as overprotective as you think, it’s not to make your life horrible. Deep down inside, we all know that our parents love us in their own unique way. Try to learn more about your parents’ past to see whether it explains their actions.

Last tip: Find someone to talk to. Because there’s only so much that the piano can do for you. Talk to people about your parents especially with people that share your problem. Discuss about each others’ parents and try to make each other try to understand the others situation. And who knows? Maybe you’ll learn more about your parents.

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Teenpublish

Sometimes parents may act conservative to protect their kids. When you grow older you may realize that, but definitely not so much realization in your teenage years. However, just know this, next time you are pissed at them for something, realize, that they will have your back when things get tough, no matter how tough they may be. There is a limit to what friends will do for you, and there is NO limit for what parents will do for you.
pollypocky

I feel for you guys right now. :/ I'm Asian and it's mainly my dad who I'm pretty ticked off at right now. I feel uncomfortable asking him for things like a job or expressing my own opinion on something because if he disagrees with me I know for a fact that he will blow up on me. I have been ruled be a tyrant for the past 17 years and I can't wait until I move out to start college out of town. My freedom is restricted and I can't wait to start fresh doing the things I never had the chance to do. Because of my limited freedom, I've become so shy and unable to speak to people or keep in contact with friends. I blame him for it. I am so unhappy right now. :(
Moe2Love

Jacks12, you are amazing and I wish I knew who you were. I sympathize with your predicament completely, because I'm Indian and my parents would hate me if I ever told them I dated anyone outside my race. I generally try and stay positive, and make them realize that no matter what girl I decide to date, it doesn't matter what color she is but WHO she is. My only advice to you is to stay as confident as possible, because they'll accept the way you choose to live eventually, especially when you're an adult and you become your own person
Jacks12

It is comforting in a way, knowing that I am not the only one out there. But that also does not solve anything. So people are going through similar situations. Now what. I love and respect my parents very much. And I realize i'm not perfect, and will own up to any mistakes, though small. My parents are very conservative and traditional. For example, my current problem, I am dating an amazing guy, considerate, loving, respectful, very smart and driven. Any parent would accept someone as great as him. Even more so, he makes me happy. He also happens to be black, whereas I am middle eastern. My parents will have none of that, and have threatened to disown me if ever I decided to see him. Gosh, they threatened to disown me once they saw the nose ring i go (which i think is lovely, but had to remover subsequently). It is unfair in my eyes, and now am trying to figure out how i can maintain a healthy relationship with them while not compromising myself, my convictions. Because reality is no one is right or wrong, we all jut share different opinions. I wish they just respected this.